Someone: hey can you give me some relationship advice?
Me who’s aroace: Communicate.
Someone: I tried but it didn’t-
Me: break up.
This is just how it is. If you guys cant reach a compromise that is mutually beneficial then dont waste your energy. if the other person says they’re going to change for the better, but never does, then drop them. It’s hard, dont get me wrong, change takes time. But if you’re not seeing even a self correction after you’ve talked about it and reminded them and done all the things for them that they refuse to accept then just leave. Nothing communicates “I’m fed up with this,” better than “I’m outie 9000”.
Do you guys think Julian’s parents had a bad relationship, which lead to his negative views on the concept of marriage? Or was he just a professional slut and hater
self-flagellation and self-bullying are all bad motivators for change BTW. it can be hard to escape from a spiral but genuinely u have to be nice to urself or nothing will change
you have to take care of yourself and not punch yourself down because you feel like you ‘deserve it’. if you feel like the world is against you, you should at least be on your own side while you work through things.
everything should cost one dollar, ten dollars, or one hundred dollars. a drinky drink is one dollar. a t shirt is ten dollars. rent is one hundred. i might be convinced to allow one thousand dollars for some very big purchases like a house. i get it, you’re running a business. i’m not unreasonable.
